Friday, September 14, 2012

The Name Game

Only 29 days until Cori and I are pronounced Wife and Wife xo

NYC Love <3

Today, Cori and I ventured to City Hall in Manhattan and we filed for our marriage license. As of this moment, we hold actual paper documentation that states we can legally marry in the state of New York. In one month, Cori will be my bride and I will be her bride. Even more, we will be recognized as a married in the state of New York, as well as any other U.S. state that recognizes marriage equality. Some people say that marriage is just a piece of paper, but when your human right to marry is threatened, encompassing that little piece of paper holds so much more value.

While filling out the marriage license form, we were asked if we planned on changing our last names. Cori and I ultimately agreed that we would keep our own last names, but for formal purposes, we would use my last name. Cori and I both knew that we were the type of girls that did not want to part with our last names, regardless if we were marrying a male or a female. For us, we feel as if our last names is a significant part of our identity and autonomy. Traditionally, changing one's last name to your spouse's last name was a sign  of ownership, which doesn't genuinely reflect our relationship. 

NY Marriage License Approved!

As mentioned before, we plan on using my last name for formalities. This is to keep things simple for our friends and family. It would be a lot easier to write "Ms. and Ms. Walpole" as oppose to "Ms. Petrushonis and Ms. Walpole" when addressing letters, invites, cars, and e-messages. Additionally, if we decide to have children, they would share my last name as well. We came to this decision for a couple of reasons:
  1. My last name, Walpole, is a lot easier to pronounce than Cori's last name, Petrushonis. We haven't attended one event, including college graduation, where Cori's last name wasn't completely butchered. Fingers crossed that her last name is pronounced correctly as our wedding! 
  2. My mother and father each have one child from a previous marriage. My father has my older sister and my mother has my older brother. Together, they had me, which leaves my father with only two daughters. My sister made the personal choice to carry her husband's last name and my brother holds his birth father's last name. Cori thought it would be a noble gesture to allow our future children to carry the my family's last name since her father has two sons and one other daughter. 
There is no right or wrong choice. Every couple needs to make the choice that is right for their relationship and family values. We are very interested to know what other couples are planning... Keeping or changing? Combining or hyphenating? Maybe creating a whole new last name?  Feel free to share! xo

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Saturday, September 1, 2012

Bridal Tea Party

On August 25, 2012, our AMAZING bridal party threw us a beautiful bridal shower! They spent months planning and worked incredibly hard to make sure that Cori and I didn't know the details. All Cori and I knew was the date because Cori needed to be able to request the day off from work. Did we mention that our girls are amazing?!

You are cordially invited to our Bridal Tea Party <3

Meet the Bridal Party...

Our Bridal Party

From left to right: Andrea (Stephy's best friend since high school), Debbie (Stephy's sister and maid of honor), Stephy and Cori (the brides), Natalie (Cori's sister and maid of honor), and Yvonne (Cori's best friend since high school)

Side Note: In addition to our girls, Stephanie also has her older brother, Jason, serving as an honor attendant. We also have our beloved boxer, Madison, serving as our dog of honor.

We decided to keep the bridal shower strictly females as too not overwhelm our maids with large number of guests. The manor was filled with many of our female friends and family. Cori and I both felt nervous and excited! After we made our rounds, thanking everyone for their support and attendance, our breathing finally slowed and we were able to truly take in all the hard work that went into this day.The manor was decorated beautifully and the food was absolutely delicious. There were vegetarian options that did not consist of only eggplant parm or pasta and our favors consist of seeds for our guest to plant, which reflects our Eco-friendly lifestyle. The centerpieces were were ceramic tea pots, which featured beautiful potted flowers and were given to our guest as prizes for the bridal shower games. Not to mention, the tea party theme was brilliant and compliments the Victorian-themed aspect of our wedding.

Tea & Drinks

Dessert Table

Our Cake and Party Favors

Bridal Shower Game: Toilet Paper Bride

We absolutely loved playing the Newlywed Game and wathcing our guests play Toilet Paper Bride. During the latter games, guest were split into four groups and one member of each group had to model a "wedding dress" created from toilet paper, designed by the other group members. Our guests were so detailed-oriented and they put in quite the effort into creating toilet paper dresses. We especially loved the toilet paper wedding shoes, head pieces, and my mother's cave-woman wedding dress. As the brides, Cori and I were given the roles as judges and had to choose the best toilet paper wedding dress. Our friend Amanda, rocking the toilet paper shoes, was the winner! During the Newlywed Game, Cori and I were asked a series of questions about each other that ranged from biggest fears to favorite color. Our guests had to estimate how many questions they thought that Cori and I would answer correctly. This game made Cori and I realize how much we truly understand and listen to each other without measuring the significance of the subject matter.

Bridal Shower Gift Highlight: Kate Spade Towels

Bridal Shower Gift Highlight: Hot Pink Blender

We are forever grateful for the beautiful bridal shower that our bridal party planned for us and for the abundant amount of support given from our family and friends, as well as gifts that Cori and I received, which were incredibly thoughtful. We feel truly honor to have such wonderful people in our lives. xo