We are very excited to introduce another lovely Biconfident guest blogger, Rachel, who shares her experience with coming out as bisexual and her personal journey towards acceptance. Rachel was given an amazing opportunity to discuss her sexual identity with her peers, as well as the common misconceptions that plagues the bisexual community.
You can follow Rachel on twitter HERE!
Hi Waking Up With Her readers! I'm a big fan of Stephanie and Corrine's blog and thought I'd share an experience with that I had recently.
A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to come out as bisexual to my entire Multicultural Psychology class. As part of class requirements, I had to write a paper and give a presentation on the features of my identity that I consider to be influential in my life. I was really nervous about telling everyone about my sexuality since they all assume I am straight and because of all the misconceptions about bisexuals. I've also never had to give a presentation to so many people about such a personal, emotional topic!
I spoke about how I always had feelings for both men and women, but that it was easy for me to "pass" as being straight since I was also attracted to men. When I came to college, I came out as bisexual and started dating women. However, I felt alienated by both straight and gay people. I felt misunderstood by both communities and that people thought being bisexual was a temporary, illegitimate identity that I'd eventually grow out of. I felt an immense pressure to "pick a side," although I was completely comfortable identifying as bisexual. I've since stopped putting pressure on myself to conform to what society thinks about my sexuality and am much more confident with my identity.
Talking about this with my class was really scary, but I am so happy I did. I had three people come up to me after class and say how much they liked my presentation, which made me feel awesome! It was also really nice to have the opportunity to fully explain my sexuality to others and the misconceptions that exist about those of us who identify as bisexual. I've since had people in my program meet my girlfriend and I feel accepted by everyone.
The only way to clear up the misconceptions about bisexuality is to speak up against them, which is why I love the Waking Up With Her blog so much. Stephanie and Corrine are doing so much for all of us and I appreciate it so much!
What a truly remarkable BiConfident story! There is nothing more courageous than showing your true colors to a room full of people who has the ability to place judgment. We are happy to hear that Rachel’s presentation had a positive effect on her classmates.
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