Thursday, May 17, 2012

The Good, The Bad, and The Fabulous

As long as there is hope, have the battle is won.

LGBT Updates

Bad News: On May 8, 2012, North Carolina voters approved Amendment 1, which states marriage between one man and one woman as the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this State.

Great News: On May 9, 2012, President Barak Obama declared his support for gay marriage during a sit-down interview. On Sunday, prior to Obama’s interview, Vice President Joseph Biden stated that he was personally comfortable with same-sex marriage. These acts of political bravery have been a major victory for the LGBT community. 


I have to tell you that over the course of several years as I have talked to friends and family and neighbors when I think about members of my own staff who are in incredibly committed monogamous relationships, same-sex relationships, who are raising kids together, when I think about those soldiers or airmen or marines or sailors who are out there fighting on my behalf and yet feel constrained, even now that Don’t Ask Don’t Tell is gone, because they are not able to commit themselves in a marriage, at a certain point I’ve just concluded that for me personally it is important for me to go ahead and affirm that I think same sex couples should be able to get married. – President Barack Obama

Wedding Planning Updates

Last Friday, Cori and I ventured to Astoria, NY to meet with a potential hairstylist and make-up artist, Jen Washburn, owner of Styled by Jen. While looking for wedding vendors, Cori and I would often seek out individuals who were offbeat and laid-back, but still brilliant at his or her trade. Jen was everything we were looking for and so much more! We had excellent chemistry and Jen uses MAC make-up, which was an added bonus. Cori and I had so much fun getting our hair and make-up done and taking photos of each other.We decided to hire Jen to do our hair and make-up, as well as the hair and make-up for our bridal party, which would be gift from us. A little pampering here and there always seems like an excellent investment!

Cori's Curls

Stephy's Curls

Today is also a very special day because my beautiful fiancée turned 26th years young!

Happy Birthday Cori!!

Don't forget to "LIKE" us on Facebook! xox

Monday, May 14, 2012

BiConfident - Rachel's Story

We are very excited to introduce another lovely Biconfident guest blogger, Rachel, who shares her experience with coming out as bisexual and her personal journey towards acceptance. Rachel was given an amazing opportunity to discuss her sexual identity with her peers, as well as the common misconceptions that plagues the bisexual community. 
You can follow Rachel on twitter HERE!


Hi Waking Up With Her readers! I'm a big fan of Stephanie and Corrine's blog and thought I'd share an experience with that I had recently.

A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to come out as bisexual to my entire Multicultural Psychology class. As part of class requirements, I had to write a paper and give a presentation on the features of my identity that I consider to be influential in my life. I was really nervous about telling everyone about my sexuality since they all assume I am straight and because of all the misconceptions about bisexuals. I've also never had to give a presentation to so many people about such a personal, emotional topic!
 
I spoke about how I always had feelings for both men and women, but that it was easy for me to "pass" as being straight since I was also attracted to men. When I came to college, I came out as bisexual and started dating women. However, I felt alienated by both straight and gay people. I felt misunderstood by both communities and that people thought being bisexual was a temporary, illegitimate identity that I'd eventually grow out of. I felt an immense pressure to "pick a side," although I was completely comfortable identifying as bisexual. I've since stopped putting pressure on myself to conform to what society thinks about my sexuality and am much more confident with my identity.  


Talking about this with my class was really scary, but I am so happy I did. I had three people come up to me after class and say how much they liked my presentation, which made me feel awesome! It was also really nice to have the opportunity to fully explain my sexuality to others and the misconceptions that exist about those of us who identify as bisexual. I've since had people in my program meet my girlfriend and I feel accepted by everyone.

The only way to clear up the misconceptions about bisexuality is to speak up against them, which is why I love the Waking Up With Her blog so much. Stephanie and Corrine are doing so much for all of us and I appreciate it so much!

  
What a truly remarkable BiConfident story! There is nothing more courageous than showing your true colors to a room full of people who has the ability to place judgment. We are happy to hear that Rachel’s presentation had a positive effect on her classmates. 
Make sure to follow Rachel on Twitter!

 Want to share your journey towards becoming BiConfident and/or Love Story? Email us:

If you identify as bisexual, then submit a photo to the BiConfidence Campaign and help us debunk the myths and spread the truths about bisexuality. xo