Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Love, Marriage, and Activism

Two years ago, Cori and I became increasingly active in the fight for marriage equality and human rights. During the “whirlwind” stage of our relationship, we found ourselves floating on a pink cloud, in which we never fully thought about the lack of freedom that we would have because we were in a same-sex relationship. Like most couples, we dreamt about getting married and eventually having children, but we barely realized that these simple freedoms could be unattainable or unnecessarily difficult to acquire. This wasn’t a heartbreaking realization for us; instead, we added this fight as a chapter in our love story because every epic love story always has a battle that needs to be conquered.

Our first efforts began when I stumbled across a Facebook post that requested same-sex couples, who were living in the NYC are, to take part in a PSA video. Without a second thought, I replied to the message and told Cori about the incredible opportunity. The name of the campaign is Freedom to Marry and its goal is to win marriage nationwide. 

At the 3 second mark of this video, you can see Cori and me holding hands, and then the camera pans to our faces. Our role was minor, but the message we helped to portray was beyond significant. In following, Cori and I also participated in the NOH8 Campaign. We are actively writing letters to legislators and helping to educate other individuals about the oppression of the LGBT community. Activism became a colossal part of who we are as individuals and as a couple. We will proudly fight for ourselves, our relationship, and for everyone else who wishes to live out their personal fairy tales or who wishes to live a life without having to face hate, discrimination, and prejudice.

NOH8 Photo

The United States is making strides in the battle for marriage equality, but we still have a long way to go. As of current, same-sex marriage is legal in Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Vermont, the District of Columbia, and most recently, New York. A proposal to legalize same-sex marriage in Washington State is expected to passed by the Senate and the House. Additionally, lawmakers in New Jersey and Maryland are expected to debate same-sex marriage this year, and Maine is working towards developing a same-sex marriage proposal for the upcoming November ballot. Work still needs to be done in other areas, especially in the area of bullying and hate crimes. One could only hope that in this lifetime, or in lifetimes to come,we will be able to lay our armor down and celebrate a well-deserved victory.

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  1. Fantastic post. As I have got older and started to plan my wedding, having children etc I've really seen why equality activism is really important. loving your blog ladies :)
    Sarah xx